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Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men by Jane Ward

A straight white girl can kiss a girl, like it, and still call herself straight—her boyfriend may even encourage her. But can straight white guys experience the same easy sexual fluidity, or would kissing a guy just mean that they are really gay? Not Gay thrusts deep into a world where straight guy-on-guy action is not a myth but a reality: there’s fraternity and military hazing rituals, where new recruits are made to grab each other’s penises and stick fingers up their fellow members’ anuses; online personal ads, where straight men seek other straight men to masturbate with; and, last but not least, the long and clandestine history of straight men frequenting public restrooms for sexual encounters with other men. For Jane Ward, these sexual practices reveal a unique social space where straight white men can—and do—have sex with other straight white men; in fact, she argues, to do so reaffirms rather than challenges their gender and racial identity.

Ward illustrates that sex between straight white men allows them to leverage whiteness and masculinity to authenticate their heterosexuality in the context of sex with men. By understanding their same-sex sexual practice as meaningless, accidental, or even necessary, straight white men can perform homosexual contact in heterosexual ways. These sex acts are not slippages into a queer way of being or expressions of a desired but unarticulated gay identity. Instead, Ward argues, they reveal the fluidity and complexity that characterizes all human sexual desire. In the end, Ward’s analysis offers a new way to think about heterosexuality—not as the opposite or absence of homosexuality, but as its own unique mode of engaging in homosexual sex, a mode characterized by pretense, dis-identification and racial and heterosexual privilege. Daring, insightful, and brimming with wit, Not Gay is a fascinating new take on the complexities of heterosexuality in the modern era.
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Let's talk about gay sex — because even in , misconceptions are seemingly inescapable. Maybe that's because sex between men or women, for that matter is still all but absent from mainstream media. In fact, the Elton John biopic "Rocketman," released in May, is reportedly the first big-budget studio film with a sex scene between two men. Or maybe it's because gay sex that does leach into popular media tends to misrepresent typical sexual encounters — often to an embarrassing extent. For example, most gay men would not describe quick, spur-of-the-moment tent sex, as featured in the film "Brokeback Mountain," as typical. Here are the most common myths about sex between men, and the reality behind them, based on several interviews with gay men living in the US.

Men who have sex with men MSM , also known as males who have sex with males , are male persons who engage in sexual activity with members of the same sex, regardless of how they identify themselves. The term MSM was created in the s by epidemiologists to study the spread of disease among men who have sex with men, regardless of identity. It does not describe any specific sexual activity, and which activities are covered by the term depends on context. First, it was pursued by epidemiologists seeking behavioral categories that would offer better analytical concepts for the study of disease-risk than identity-based categories such as "gay", " bisexual ", or "straight" , because a man who self-identifies as gay or bisexual is not necessarily sexually active with men, and someone who identifies as straight might be sexually active with men. Second, its usage is tied to criticism of sexual identity terms prevalent in social construction literature which typically rejected the use of identity-based concepts across cultural and historical contexts. MSM are not limited to small, self-identified, and visible sub-populations. MSM and gay refer to different things: behaviors and social identities.

The dilemma I am a year-old man and I had, until last year, identified as a straight man. We were good mates then, but nothing more. We are both architects and I went to see some of his latest work. He offered me a drink and we ended up getting drunk. He is slightly older and also identifies as heterosexual.

Not Gay: Sex between Straight White Men is a book by Jane Ward , in which Ward details the phenomenon of straight men seeking out sex with other straight men despite not identifying as gay , bisexual , or bi-curious. Ward discusses hazing traditions, such as the "elephant walk" in which each man has one hand on the penis of the man behind him and the other hand inserted into the anus of the man in front and the circle jerk as examples of sexual contact between heterosexual men. She also discusses male-male sexual activities in prisons and the military. The term "bro-job" analogous to bromance and a play on blowjob refers to a sexual encounter between two straight men who are often close friends. Ward expresses the view that "bro-jobs" are not an indication that a man is actually gay, but rather a means for straight men to explore their own sexual identity. It's sort of like a game of telephone, four blogs down the line I'm reading stuff that says 'Jane Ward has written an entire book about bro-jobs. Not Gay was a Lambda Literary Award finalist.

He's less adventurous regarding sex than me and seems to have much less of a sex drive than me also. But because of my increased feelings of well-being and confidence, we are having more sex now than ever before. He seems to enjoy this. But I wish he would open up to more options than "cis hetero vanilla" sex. I have already come out to him as a trans gay man pointed out that the two—the amount of sex we're having and the fact that I now know myself to be a gay man—are interlinked. I have also told him I would prefer more MM-style sexual interactions.

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